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EntropyControlSpecialist 11:26 AM 05-17-2013
Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
I am the same way. But for some odd reason, NOT in a business sense.

In my personal life I am just like you described yourself. I get myself in hot water all the time for saying things (things that are often judgmental and not my place to say) simply because....well...I am opinionated and can't help myself sometimes.

But when it comes to business, I tend to operate on a more factual (verses emotional) basis. I can easily sort out the difference between fact and feeling and have no problem enforcing things in a black and white fashion. I think that has a lot to do with why I have a good backbone in this job.

It isn't that I don't feel for people in tough situations and such, it's just that when I wear my business hat, emotional connections and personal feelings don't get as strong of a voice as they do in my personal life.



I definitely agree that there are all sorts of negative things and big time fall out for kids who don't get that deep bonding connection with their parent and I too think it is VERY important for the emotional, social and mental well being of a child.

Buuut, you can't make a parent spend time with their child. If they don't understand, recognize or even value that theory (secure attachment) then you can't convince them of it.

Parents will ALWAYS parent in the way they wish to, no matter what we require for rules/policies in our handbooks. Parents will ALWAYS do what works best for them and will prioritize in the same manner.

Just like when we say we wish a parent would spend their day off with their child. Even if they did keep their child home with them, how do we know the child isn't sitting in front of the TV with a Sponge Bob marathon playing on Nick Jr while he munches on left over Easter candy he found stashed in his toybox while his mom is busy playing Farmville on Facebook...not even looking up to check on him.

We can value, promote and wish for secure emotional connections and quality face time between parents and children all we want but that doesn't mean it will actually happen.
Sad, but true! It's why I don't require a parent to be working to send their child here. 6/9 children that attend here (full-timers and part-timers) have SAHM's. From a business standpoint, income is income. I wouldn't reprimand a parent as a business owner for being, what I consider to be, a bad parent. But, I would greatly enjoy it if another parent did.

As for the child sitting in front of the TV with candy ... how do you know one of my DCBs so well??? Are you in here hanging out while Mom & DCB talk about how much "fun" he had to another child, who then tells them that those are bad choices LOL!?

I do value, promote, and wish for those things but I know they won't happen for the parents who don't value them. Actions speak louder than words with them and I can SEE what they value. But no one says anything in our society about it.
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