Really Need to Figure Out What To Do

[Breezy]

I know I have posted a million times about this DCG (8 months) but this is seriously getting ridiculous. I thought I cracked this crying thing last week but nope turns out I didn't.

The crying is constant. She has been crying for over an hour now unless I pick her up. Mom didn't feed her before bringing her this morning (she ate last at 4AM when she woke up for the day- dropped off at 7am) so she was hungry as soon as she got here. My DS was up and ready for breakfast so I got him in his highchair and gave him his food and then gave DCG a bottle. She was happy as can be while drinking her bottle and then while sitting on my lap for a few minutes after. But, then my DS needed more food so I put DCG in her swing so her tummy could settle before going on my floor (she spits up). She started screaming before I even put her in it because she knew she was going to be put down.

I was cutting up fruit for my DS and she was screaming the whole entire time. I got her out of the the swing, she stopped crying immediately until I motioned to put her on the floor with her toys. Screamed immediately. I went into the kitchen to wash up DS and she screamed even louder.

I have been trying to play with her when she is happy and not do anything when she is screaming. I don't give in and hold her constantly like she wants- if she is safe, clean, and fed I let her cry. If I make a motion to pick her up the crying stops on a DIME- everytime.Then I get the smiles and coos, but as soon as it looks like I am going to walk away or even move my EYES from her she screams. It's not a tiny fuss or a little cry... its a shrill scream.

Yesterday, she woke up from her nap every 10 minutes screaming because she was alone. She maybe slept 45 minutes in one stretch. At home, when she does this mom gets her up and doesn't make her nap. She says "Oh, she doesn't want to miss anything". Same with in the middle of the night. She gets up and stays up to play because she wakes up and doesn't want to be in her PNP (sleeps in mom and dads room).

This week she was here Tues, Wed, Thurs. The screaming is wearing on my nerves, waking my DS up from his naps prematurely, and bugging him (he walks around with his hands over his ears). It is ridiculous. I have mentioned it to mom and dad and they say yup she does it at home too. Mom said today that she just holds her and gives in to her.

Right now, she is playing nicely but then she will remember she wants to be held so she starts up again. Oops spoke too soon, she caught a glimpse of me and started again.

Any other suggestions? Should I just be letting her cry? She will lay in her PNP at nap time and cry for hours and not sleep.Yesterday I walked in and gave her the pacifier and rubbed her back and she fell asleep immediately until I stopped and then started screaming. I try swaddling her at nap time and she sleeps a little longer but always wakes up freaking out.

Yesterday the crying was literally 8 hours straight unless she was being held or asleep for those tiny cat naps. I am losing my MIND. I literally have to walk away for some deep breaths so I don't lose it!