Parents Lying To Each Other About Behavior Issues?
So I have a dcm who makes dad 'the bad guy' by saying things like "You don't want your father to hear this!"
Well, last week there was a behavior problem that warranted a discussion of a previous problem (ie the same type of issue we had 2 weeks ago resurfaced). Dcd picked up and of course I referenced the previous problem too, as its significant. We already deal with it! Well, he didn't know about the problem and was apparently mad. Not my problem-he needed to hear it.
Now, we had another issue yesterday (same type..hurting others) and mom came in today saying that they didn't tell dad again. I don't agree with this 'good guy/bad guy' thing because of so many reasons. Creating different levels of power, teaching kids to lie, etc. I can't decide how kids are parented but now if this happens again, I can see last week repeating. Dad may pick up, and I will not lie for mom. I will list all of the similar occurrences we've been having!
Would you say anything to mom or just let it play out and be honest with dad? The parents are married and together and this is so obnoxious. Thanks!