Hi all, I am registered but can't login from my phone!

I am going to give a family notice. I have in my contract that I will give two weeks, but reserve the right to term immediately if the situation calls for it.

The family I am letting go is only here one day a week, and it is for non stop crying. Wondering if I should stick with two weeks, or do it immediately. I am at my wits end (as are the other kids in group) from all the noise!

Thanks for your input!

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I'd term immediately.

No sense dragging it out since one day a week isn't going to change anything and it wouldn't really be putting the family in a bind for care if they only use one day a week....unless you term the night before a day they planned to use care.

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No, she is here on Mondays. So if it is done this evening they should have plenty of time to get squared away for next week.

Thanks!

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If only one day a week I'd term immediately. I'd say it's very stressful for the child to be so upset and to the other children to hear another child so upset all the time. You wish them all the best and recommend 3-5 days a week so he can fully adjust somewhere in the future.

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If your policies say you can term immediately, go for it. I've never wished a termination period had been longer but have often wished I'd skipped the two weeks and termed immediately.

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Would love to get some more advice!

I've only termed twice in 3 yrs of being open, both for the same issue of crying. Each time I termed at pick up, face to face and both times it went poorly.

I have mostly texted with DCM as communication, only emailed for enrollment paperwork, and never talked on the phone.

If you were me, how would you term? Call, text or email?

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I would hand a written letter to the parent at pick up.

I would also add that I would allow them 2 weeks since it is just two days..... and I aim to keep to my contract/word, I imagine that is easier said than done though.

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Be confident, you're doing a great job, you're doing the best you can.

Have you communicated this with the parents at all? If you have been, then they will know it's coming.

Were you open today ? Was the child there ? Also do you have an opening for more days ? Are you willing to allow this child to attend more days ?

If not. I would serve one more day this coming Monday. Then at some point during the day I would call dcm. I would be honest.

Let her know that you have tried to help the child adjust but at one day a week dck is NOT happy here and adjusting. Let mom know how hard it is on their child, the rest of the kids and on you.

Let her know that you want what is best for DCK and that you need to let child go because they are not happy in your program. At the end of the day it's not about money, it's about the well being of every child in your program.

I've had to Letgo of a family like this before and the family was very understanding. However. I communicated all along with the parents and updated them about the lack of progress with the child, so they were. It surprised when I said it wasn't working out.

Just be confident. You are doing what's best for you and your other kids.

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I think you just answered your own question. Do it now, you will be so glad that you did.
Deb

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I finally figured out my login!

I have been very upfront with both parents, so I am sure they won't be surprised. I have called for early pick up almost every day she has attended.

I have a second day available but they have family who watches her the other days of the week. And I will be honest, at this point, I don't know that I am willing to the additional time, I feel so burnt out from the crying!

I am going to give mom a call today and send a follow-up email. Like I said, the last two times I termed face to face at pick up went completely south! One dcm cried and threw a small tantrum saying it wasn't up to me, she paid me, blah blah... and the other dcd swore at me in front of the kids Lol so I am a little gun shy doing it again in person!

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If I am worried about reaction, I will send an email. Text to let them know to please check their email. And then follow up with a written letter.

To soften the blow to dcm, focus on the child. She needs a setting where she is comfortable. I would suggest to dcm that she looks for somewhere where she can attend more days per week. Once she has settled in, then look at reducing attendance. Tell her you no longer have any more availability (if she asks).

I find if I make it about the child, and offer suggestions on how to succeed in the new place, it always seems to go better. Usually if I mention on how stressful it is (or whatever) for me, my group, etc, is when parents start to get defensive. I also go over transitions during interview so that parents know that if little one is struggling to adjust, I will not keep them. I present this as I want the children to be happy and enjoy their time while they are here.

Good luck! And fwiw, I would do an immediate term. No reason for anyone to suffer any longer.

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I agree. With the others. Just email if your not feeling good about phone or face to face.

Since they know it's not working out, I hope they are understanding. You are being honest and showing it's not about the money.

I would also no suggest more days with you. I would just end it.

Dcp,
As you are aware, sally continues to struggle adapting to our program. Here as abc daycare we want every child to be happy and secure when attending.
Having sally only one day a week is not working out for her, and I have decided that it's in her best interest to end services as of. Xyz. date
I want nothing but the best for every child in my care, so thank you for understanding my tough position here.

Maybe something like that ?

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When I termed for constant crying I basically said it was due to stress of the child and stress of the other kids. I gave them the option of staying another two weeks but gave them the advice that it might be best to part ways right away. They chose to end it right away. I have never had a parent use the two weeks once I have terminated care no matter what the reason.

I always use email for termination. The one time I termed face to face did not go well.

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