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Old 12-17-2010, 05:53 AM
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I am purposely leaving out names for legal reasons but I have to share an incident and more over how it has been handled.

My son is five and is at a licensed preschool in Knoxville. He's attended this facility since he was two and he has loved it and frankly, as parents, we have too. They have been extremely helpful over the years in helping identify some learning issues and such with my son. He's been in three different classrooms and attends "full time" and has since we started.

He's now in the class for the older 4-5 year olds (those that just miss the kindergarten cut off date) and my son recently came home with very dark bruises on his upper arm, so intense that you can actually see the finger prints of where he was grabbed.

When I picked my child up that evening, the teacher had pulled me aside to tell me he didn't have a great day and went to great extent to tell me what had happened. I thought this was rather curious, but was appreciative of her telling me so that I can help reinforce proper behavior, etc. (My son has been tested professionally with ADHD and is treated for it). During her explanation she never once told me that she grabbed him for any reason. She did say that when she was repremanding him for spitting on another child, that he laughed at her. And that really made her mad, I said I can understand and she responded that "It made my head spin." I found that also to be a bit extreme, but quickly dismissed it. She continued to say that it was very difficult for him to calm down after this and couldn't go to sleep during nap time, once he did fall asleep, nap time was almost over, so she let him sleep longer. I did find this very curious, as an ADHD kid, my son rarely stays upset over anything for more then a few minutes. I can't think of anything ever that has caused him to remain upset, he's very quick to distract himself and move on to the next thing.

later that evening, as my son was getting ready for bed, I noticed his arm and saw the marks, thinking it was marker, I tried to rub it off and he screamed. I stopped and asked what happened, he said to me: "I was a bad boy and when I laughed at Miss J*** she grabbed my arm and squeezed it really hard and made me cry.

So here's what happened after -
I called the director of the daycare, explained the incident. She wasn't sure what to do as she's been there over 25 years, she hasn't ever had to deal with this before. She attempted to have me meet with the teacher and her, but I refused. I told her that I wanted her gone, I didn't want to see the teacher, I don't want her near my child. She said she was going to speak with the principal of the school (the preschool is part of an elementary school) and would call me back. I offered to email photos she refused saying she believed me.

I heard back from her around noon, she reviewed the protocal and did the following accordingly - took statements from the teacher, from the other teacher in the room, contacted her licensing liason and when she wasn't able to reach her, she called her previous contact - who was reassigned to another county. She was instructed that the teacher is to be suspended and not allowed to return until there is an investigation and the licensing board will make a recommendation based on their findings. She also had to contact the DSC abuse hotline and report the incident.
I later met up with the director to show her the photos and my son's arm (which two weeks later, some of these marks are still visible)

The director did make the report to DCS, however, never offered the photos I gave them because as she said, they didn't ask for them. I have no idea what she said in the report. after three days, I never heard a word back from DCS, I got the report number from the director and called the local office in knoxville who told me they have screen out the report and will not investigate. I find this incredible, but their reply was that based on the report, the school had acted appropriately and the child wasn't in danger.

It is my understanding that she isn't allowed to return to work until the licensing board makes a decision and the director told me that they were waiting to hear back from the board. And if she's let back in the school, she will not be assigned to his same class, that she will move classes, and they won't disrupt my child's life by moving him to another class. I was also told that I would be told what the conclusion is before her coming back.

I'm pretty shocked that something as severe as this seems to be completely brushed under the table and frankly the overall lack of concern seems to be sending a message that I have done something wrong, that I am attacking the individual. I am concerned that this will be documented as "the parent made a false claim."

My son obviously got the best of this woman, and his behavior was wrong, and he deserved to be reprimanded, however, she should have the skills to control herself and act appropriately.
I am sorely disappointed at how this has played out and how I've somehow turned into the bad guy on this.
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Old 12-17-2010, 12:31 PM
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I am very sorry to hear this experience has happened to you and your child.

Taking the pictures was a smart move, but unfortunately the pictures don't tell the whole story, and they aren't necessary solid evidence that it was cause by a particular person.

Sometimes as adults we can under estimate just how much strength we really have. And in some situations a child needs to be restrained in order to prevent injury to themselves or others. But as the provider, she should have informed you of this when you picked your child up, that there was a need to grasp him firmly or something. If she didn't intentionally harm him is what I mean.

By the sounds of it she has not gotten away with anything, though. It may have been an accident, and maybe in the moment she grabbed on a little to hard. But there is no way to prove that she did or didn't, and unfortunately, they can only do so much.

You did the right thing by contacting immediately, seems as though you have asked all the right questions, and I hope your son is alright.
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I am purposely leaving out names for legal reasons but I have to share an incident and more over how it has been handled.

My son is five and is at a licensed preschool in Knoxville. He's attended this facility since he was two and he has loved it and frankly, as parents, we have too. They have been extremely helpful over the years in helping identify some learning issues and such with my son. He's been in three different classrooms and attends "full time" and has since we started.

He's now in the class for the older 4-5 year olds (those that just miss the kindergarten cut off date) and my son recently came home with very dark bruises on his upper arm, so intense that you can actually see the finger prints of where he was grabbed.

When I picked my child up that evening, the teacher had pulled me aside to tell me he didn't have a great day and went to great extent to tell me what had happened. I thought this was rather curious, but was appreciative of her telling me so that I can help reinforce proper behavior, etc. (My son has been tested professionally with ADHD and is treated for it). During her explanation she never once told me that she grabbed him for any reason. She did say that when she was repremanding him for spitting on another child, that he laughed at her. And that really made her mad, I said I can understand and she responded that "It made my head spin." I found that also to be a bit extreme, but quickly dismissed it. She continued to say that it was very difficult for him to calm down after this and couldn't go to sleep during nap time, once he did fall asleep, nap time was almost over, so she let him sleep longer. I did find this very curious, as an ADHD kid, my son rarely stays upset over anything for more then a few minutes. I can't think of anything ever that has caused him to remain upset, he's very quick to distract himself and move on to the next thing.

later that evening, as my son was getting ready for bed, I noticed his arm and saw the marks, thinking it was marker, I tried to rub it off and he screamed. I stopped and asked what happened, he said to me: "I was a bad boy and when I laughed at Miss J*** she grabbed my arm and squeezed it really hard and made me cry.

So here's what happened after -
I called the director of the daycare, explained the incident. She wasn't sure what to do as she's been there over 25 years, she hasn't ever had to deal with this before. She attempted to have me meet with the teacher and her, but I refused. I told her that I wanted her gone, I didn't want to see the teacher, I don't want her near my child. She said she was going to speak with the principal of the school (the preschool is part of an elementary school) and would call me back. I offered to email photos she refused saying she believed me.

I heard back from her around noon, she reviewed the protocal and did the following accordingly - took statements from the teacher, from the other teacher in the room, contacted her licensing liason and when she wasn't able to reach her, she called her previous contact - who was reassigned to another county. She was instructed that the teacher is to be suspended and not allowed to return until there is an investigation and the licensing board will make a recommendation based on their findings. She also had to contact the DSC abuse hotline and report the incident.
I later met up with the director to show her the photos and my son's arm (which two weeks later, some of these marks are still visible)

The director did make the report to DCS, however, never offered the photos I gave them because as she said, they didn't ask for them. I have no idea what she said in the report. after three days, I never heard a word back from DCS, I got the report number from the director and called the local office in knoxville who told me they have screen out the report and will not investigate. I find this incredible, but their reply was that based on the report, the school had acted appropriately and the child wasn't in danger.

It is my understanding that she isn't allowed to return to work until the licensing board makes a decision and the director told me that they were waiting to hear back from the board. And if she's let back in the school, she will not be assigned to his same class, that she will move classes, and they won't disrupt my child's life by moving him to another class. I was also told that I would be told what the conclusion is before her coming back.

I'm pretty shocked that something as severe as this seems to be completely brushed under the table and frankly the overall lack of concern seems to be sending a message that I have done something wrong, that I am attacking the individual. I am concerned that this will be documented as "the parent made a false claim."

My son obviously got the best of this woman, and his behavior was wrong, and he deserved to be reprimanded, however, she should have the skills to control herself and act appropriately.
I am sorely disappointed at how this has played out and how I've somehow turned into the bad guy on this.
I am so sorry to hear that your going through this with your child. I am going through exactly the same thing except at the daycare my daughter went to the had camera's in the rooms. I went to the daycare as soon as I saw the marks on my daughter's arm. I asked to watch the video from the day before and I actually saw what the teacher did to my daughter. The teacher was fired, but I am still waiting on the detective to call me back. I have left a couple messages and have not received a call back yet, which disappoints me greatly. My daughter is 2 years old and was only in the daycare for 3 days when it happened to her. My daughter has changed dramatically. She has these huge fits of rage, and she has become incredibly clingy. She wants nothing to do with "school" or "teachers" and it's heartbreaking to see. I am very scared for her because she is a very smart child. This happened a couple weeks ago and she freaks out if I try to leave for school. She won't even stay with her father. This is the reason I didn't want her in a daycare, but her father and I broke up when she was 18 months old and we have no family here to help. My daughter was sitting on the carpet indian style doing absolutely nothing and was grabbed so hard that the teacher dug her arms into her, dragged her by her arm, shook her, and shoved her. She remembers what happened because just today she grabbed the flyer for the school and said "mommy no school". I said "why baby? School is fun." She said "no teachers mommy." I asked her why? She picked up her arm and wiggled it. So she absolutely remembers everything and I want to see the other two days and the rest of the hours on the third. My daughter is very active, so if that lady did that to her while she was just sitting doing nothing I can't imagine what she did when she was acting "wild." I just hope that this can be fixed for both you and I. My daughter's life and state of mind obviously depend on it. Good luck to you. I also completely disagree with the other comment that was on this page. I think you were wrong for even writing that crap.
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I work at the daycare where my child was scratched badly twice by the teacher. It's a shame because I took this job for that main reason to be where my children are so I can keep an eye on them. Although, I understand we are always understaffed and teachers get frustrated with their class, but there is no excuse for hurting children in the process. I'm a parent of twins and unless you have twins you can't understand the pressures of raising two children of the same age, it's a real challenge, nonetheless a teacher has to have techniques in place to handle any situation and that is why they went to school right? I'm very upset about the whole situation, but approached the teacher very calmly and asked what happened and she claimed that she told my child to get in line and refused and instead continued to color a picture for mom and was told yet another 2 times was scratched in the process. What I don't accept is why are you putting hands on my child because she's not getting in line, how are you grabbing her? When I did ask to see the video, it wasn't even visiable to see where the camara was placed how convenient. Two weeks later another incident same story, my child didn't listen when she was told to go to another play area during free choice I might add and she wanted to be in certain area, she was told 3 times to move to another area, but if my child wanted to be there, was it necessary again to scratch her to get her attentiion? I'm I confused here? I want to ask all parents when you child/children don't follow your directions, do you scratch and hurt them in the process sometimes? Maybe? But they are you children right so I rest my case.
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Old 02-22-2012, 03:58 AM
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I feel for you OP. I would be upset too.

I worked in Iowa's poorest school for three years as a school nurse. I shared an office with the assistant principal who was also the behavioral specialist with ten years of special ed teaching. Back in those days the "BD" kids were self contained in a classroom with about one adult for every four kids. The kids we had came from all over the district. They were bussed to us. We had the hardest kids in the district when it came to violence and mental health issues.

There were three classrooms and one of them was considered to be less "weighted" so they had twelve or so kids with two adults.

Back in those days it was UNDERSTOOD that if a kid got froggy with an adult that the adult took them down to the ground. We were trained thru the district (I think it was called MAT training) and we had to show we were able to perform the move with the least chance of the child or ourselves getting hurt.

She and I worked as a team so when a kid was "going off" we would go up together... try to de-escalate and remove. That would work SOME of the time. A lot of the time we had to go in for a full tackle and bring them down to the ground. These are kids who were strong and could HURT you if you didn't seize control. (they were five to eleven)

Sorry to ramble... but there's a point to this story. In the three years I worked as either the only person responding to the kids (after a while most of them just got that if I showed up they better get gettin and come down stairs with me) or in a team... we NEVER had a single worry that if the kid was bruised or hurt on the way down to the ground or down to the office that we would be held liable for it. It was UNDERSTOOD that if the kid got violent or non-compliant with rules or safety rules that they were going down to the ground. period. We had MANY times... specially in the first few months of school or with a new kid where the parent walked into our office as we had the kid down on the ground. There were times when we had to call the police and the police came in while we had the kid on the ground.

Spitting on a kid and then laughing at an adult during a reprimand... yeah that would have been enough to have physical intervention. It's a warning shot that they are going to escalate and this is exactly what she described to you when she said he wouldn't calm down afterwards. We knew it was better to get it stopped before it started.

Now the times have changed and what was just understood in those days would be considered too much of a show of force in these days. But... the kids are the same. Times have changed what we can do with them but the kids are actually worse and at a younger age than they were twenty years ago.

The adults dealing with children with mental illness have a very hard time KNOWING how to handle acts of defiance and when to STOP the escalation so it doesn't get to the point it got with your son. There's no TRAINING to teach "holds" so that you can HOLD onto the kid without markings. With such a high percentage of mentally ill very young children now... we need to start making it as mandatory as we do CPR. We really do.

So maybe what you are seeing is that her explanation of this is quite different than yours. With her superiors and licensors she may have been able to describe the child's behavior in terms of "resistance" from what she was physically leading him to do. The authorities need to hear her story and see if the pressure bruises are from a reasonable force and his resistance of that force.

This takes TIME and they will most likely take into consideration her experience as a whole to see if the had the proper training. The outcome may well be that she needs additional training and then she can return to working.

"IF" your son has been physically violent in the last few years... if that is in the behavior that led the doctors to give such a really really young kid such a serious mental health diagnosis... then they WILL consider that in deciding if she went too far and did it with intent.

You just have to sit back and let them figure out what they think is right. It takes time. She's not in your sons class now and there is a very real possibility that nothing at all will happen to her so she may return back into the setting. At that point, if you believe they are incorrect you can appeal and move your child.

When I was in that school nurse job we didn't have a single worry whether not we would have to explain ourselves should a kid get bruised up during a move or a take down. It was understood that it could well happen. Now any markings have to be investigated and that investigation will most likely be far more expansive in information and consideration than this singular incident. Because the "injury" didn't include any broken bones or anything that would impair him in the future you may find that their findings are quite different than what you want.

You didn't say in your post what you did at home when you found out he was spitting at other children and not following adults directions. How did you handle that with him?
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You didn't say in your post what you did at home when you found out he was spitting at other children and not following adults directions. How did you handle that with him?
I was thinking the same thing... I also noticed it was 2010, so just let it be.

Bruising was not good, I do not condone it and an investigation is appropriate...but what could she do besides move him away from other kids, OP?

If he was flopping around, hitting, kicking and spitting (as I have seen before many times in centers as an employee) physically picking him up and removing him from the room (full of OTHER children) IS the only option she had. 5 year olds are big kids.....

What would you have had her do? Remove all the other kids?

I am the Mother of an ADHD child (a teen, now) and what you describe as "normal" is way beyond ANYTHING I have witnessed in my own son. Violence is NOT part of ADHD.
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I was thinking the same thing... I also noticed it was 2010, so just let it be.

Bruising was not good, I do not condone it and an investigation is appropriate...but what could she do besides move him away from other kids, OP?

If he was flopping around, hitting, kicking and spitting (as I have seen before many times in centers as an employee) physically picking him up and removing him from the room (full of OTHER children) IS the only option she had. 5 year olds are big kids.....

What would you have had her do? Remove all the other kids?

I am the Mother of an ADHD child (a teen, now) and what you describe as "normal" is way beyond ANYTHING I have witnessed in my own son. Violence is NOT part of ADHD.
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I prolly already have this exact same post somewhere in this thread.
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Unhappy To the person who posted this about the daycare teacher who hurt their son.

My daugher is 2 years old. She's VERY smart and communicates VERY well for a 2 year old... Let me tell ya. No baby talk here. I fully know what she wants and when she wants it.

She goes to daycare fulltime while I am at work.

She has a morning teacher and she also has a late afternoon/evening teacher.
So in all, she has 2 teachers throughout the day.

When I picked her up from daycare that evening.. She was telling me she wanted to go back into the daycare to play with her teacher! (evening teacher). I laughed and told her she was silly!! I asked her, "Awww, you love Mrs. _ _ _ _ " Don't you?!" She said yes!!! I asked, "Don't you also love, Ms. _ _ _ _ _ (morning teacher)." She said NO!! I asked, Huh? Why not? She said, "Ms. _ _ _ _ _ hurt me." I asked her HOW?? She replied, "She hurt my neck. (while grabbing her own neck)."

I was very confused and hurt at this point. I didn't want to believe it AT ALL.
I left it alone for 1 minute while driving back home.
I then looked at her while pulling the in driveway and asked her, "What happened to your neck?"
She said, "Ms. _ _ _ _ _ hurt me."
I still couldn't believe it and asked her how did she do this????
My daughter then tells me, "_ _ _ _ _ hurt my neck in the bathroom."
I started to cry.
My daughter was very consistent and did not hesitate to say this.
The bathroom there is a very private place and I believe my daughter.

I then asked about the other children.
I asked... "Does Ms. _ _ _ _ _ hurt ---- (childs name)
My daughter: No.
I asked... "Does Ms. _ _ _ _ _ hurt ---- (childs name)
My daughter: No. She hurts ---- (her own name).

At this point. I'm hurt. This all just happened tonight and tomorrow morning I am going up there to speak with the director. I hope all goes well because as of now........ I want her OUT. -_-
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I would be cautious about your confronting the director. It could be a simple misunderstanding, like the teacher accidentally bumped your dd and now she is reliving the event. It could have really hurt, but that does not automatically mean it was malicious.

2 yr olds make up their own reality. My son has " been to california" for example. We have never taken him on a vacation nor has anyone we know gone there. Not sure where he got this idea. I would suggest bringing it up without the presumption of guilt.
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I would be very, very careful with this. I understand as a parent how upsetting hearing something like this from your child is but at that age it really could be a misunderstanding.
We were planning a trip to Disney when my daughter was around this age and she said "I don't have to stay home and watch TV like before?" She has 2 older siblings and we took them before she was born, she saw pictures and since she wasn't in them she came up with a story that we left her at home alone while we went to Disney she even elaborated and told us that she just sat at home and watched TV. Another story, I was walking up the stairs and she was walking down, we tripped over each other and she tumbled two steps (she didn't even get hurt) but when dad got home from work she told him I threw her down the stairs. LOL. On another note how you ask a question can determine the answer for the child of that age. When asking a question you should not add anything...example: Instead of asking "Did Mrs. D hurt you" you would say "how was school", if she answered "someone hurt me you would say "tell me what happened" and not "where did Mrs.D hurt you?" I know it sounds crazy but that is why there are people trained to ask children questions. Children of this age pick up so much from television, other kids and from listening to adult conversations that it is easy to accidentally manipulate their story.
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I am purposely leaving out names for legal reasons but I have to share an incident and more over how it has been handled.

My son is five and is at a licensed preschool in Knoxville. He's attended this facility since he was two and he has loved it and frankly, as parents, we have too. They have been extremely helpful over the years in helping identify some learning issues and such with my son. He's been in three different classrooms and attends "full time" and has since we started.

He's now in the class for the older 4-5 year olds (those that just miss the kindergarten cut off date) and my son recently came home with very dark bruises on his upper arm, so intense that you can actually see the finger prints of where he was grabbed.

When I picked my child up that evening, the teacher had pulled me aside to tell me he didn't have a great day and went to great extent to tell me what had happened. I thought this was rather curious, but was appreciative of her telling me so that I can help reinforce proper behavior, etc. (My son has been tested professionally with ADHD and is treated for it). During her explanation she never once told me that she grabbed him for any reason. She did say that when she was repremanding him for spitting on another child, that he laughed at her. And that really made her mad, I said I can understand and she responded that "It made my head spin." I found that also to be a bit extreme, but quickly dismissed it. She continued to say that it was very difficult for him to calm down after this and couldn't go to sleep during nap time, once he did fall asleep, nap time was almost over, so she let him sleep longer. I did find this very curious, as an ADHD kid, my son rarely stays upset over anything for more then a few minutes. I can't think of anything ever that has caused him to remain upset, he's very quick to distract himself and move on to the next thing.

later that evening, as my son was getting ready for bed, I noticed his arm and saw the marks, thinking it was marker, I tried to rub it off and he screamed. I stopped and asked what happened, he said to me: "I was a bad boy and when I laughed at Miss J*** she grabbed my arm and squeezed it really hard and made me cry.

So here's what happened after -
I called the director of the daycare, explained the incident. She wasn't sure what to do as she's been there over 25 years, she hasn't ever had to deal with this before. She attempted to have me meet with the teacher and her, but I refused. I told her that I wanted her gone, I didn't want to see the teacher, I don't want her near my child. She said she was going to speak with the principal of the school (the preschool is part of an elementary school) and would call me back. I offered to email photos she refused saying she believed me.

I heard back from her around noon, she reviewed the protocal and did the following accordingly - took statements from the teacher, from the other teacher in the room, contacted her licensing liason and when she wasn't able to reach her, she called her previous contact - who was reassigned to another county. She was instructed that the teacher is to be suspended and not allowed to return until there is an investigation and the licensing board will make a recommendation based on their findings. She also had to contact the DSC abuse hotline and report the incident.
I later met up with the director to show her the photos and my son's arm (which two weeks later, some of these marks are still visible)

The director did make the report to DCS, however, never offered the photos I gave them because as she said, they didn't ask for them. I have no idea what she said in the report. after three days, I never heard a word back from DCS, I got the report number from the director and called the local office in knoxville who told me they have screen out the report and will not investigate. I find this incredible, but their reply was that based on the report, the school had acted appropriately and the child wasn't in danger.

It is my understanding that she isn't allowed to return to work until the licensing board makes a decision and the director told me that they were waiting to hear back from the board. And if she's let back in the school, she will not be assigned to his same class, that she will move classes, and they won't disrupt my child's life by moving him to another class. I was also told that I would be told what the conclusion is before her coming back.

I'm pretty shocked that something as severe as this seems to be completely brushed under the table and frankly the overall lack of concern seems to be sending a message that I have done something wrong, that I am attacking the individual. I am concerned that this will be documented as "the parent made a false claim."

My son obviously got the best of this woman, and his behavior was wrong, and he deserved to be reprimanded, however, she should have the skills to control herself and act appropriately.
I am sorely disappointed at how this has played out and how I've somehow turned into the bad guy on this.
I'm so sorry with your son, you may go to find legal ways to crusade against the teacher.
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i am going through this with my sons father, except it was on his forearm.

the best course of action is to go to the childrens hospital emergency room. there they will usher you to the clinic for cases like this, they will hotline it/you can hotline it too! the more people that hotline it (2 or more) the more likely they will investigate it. the principal got to give her guarded version first.

there they will take the photos of it. only the hospital social workers photos or the police photos will be viewed in court. no pictures you take at home can be used as evidence. the hospital or the police (they will call the police) will transcribe what the child says happened to him. that is evidence in court as well.

my problem is that when i saw it on a thursday, i waited 24 hours to take him in to the childrens hospital. by then there was only a clear thumbprint and they had to report that it was nonconclusive how it happened...when previously it was clear that a LARGE hand and fingers had made the marks....plus the childs story is proof.
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That's happens to my 4.5 year old son just last Friday, January 25, 2013. I fetch my child from the daycare at around 6:15 pm since my job is until 6 pm. When I was about to change his clothes that night from daycare, I notice the swelling and red mark on his wrist and obviously it was finger prints. I asked my son what happened to his wrist he told me that he was noisy at the daycare that's why his teacher grabbed him and squeezed his wrist while yelling telling him to stop. That night I also noticed my son had a hard time going to sleep. The following day mark was still there and again, my son had a hard time going to sleep. I called the daycare Director and told her what I saw at my sons wrist at told her that I also had some pictures of it taken, she told me to show her the pictures on Monday January 28, 2013. Until now on it's 3rd day markings are still on my son's wrist.
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What children say at home and what really happened are two different stories.
They have immagination, and those people who work with chalenging children should be rewarded for hard work. Discipline your children at home first.
Some parents just asking for excuses as they neglect thair children , and some of those are just asking for some money over the child bruses that usually are made from play.

How you could give a child to a person that you dont trust !!!

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Yesterday, my husband went to pick up our 4 year old son from daycare and the teacher (who is new this year due to merging schools) went over to my son and was going to take his pillow and blanket from him (my husband showed up just after nap time). He told the teacher that he would pick him up first, but before he could she yanked the pillow and blanket out from under him. As common sense would tell you, he hit his head on the floor.

I spoke to the director and told her what happened and they are looking into it. A big concern of mine is that if she is doing this in front of parents, what is happening when we are not there? I have requested that he be moved from that room if she stays, but I am really wondering if they keep her, should I tell other parents?

Ultimately, if they keep her, we will change schools. Am I overreacting?
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I am sorry to hear about this incident and can feel for you imagining what you must be going through. This is not the expected behavior of any teacher. Assuming it was an accident, in all probability she must have noticed the mark after it happened. The least she could have done was inform you about it, when she was narrating 'how bad your kid was during the day'. I sincerely hope correct justice prevails so she doesn't do it to another child again.
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I am sorry for what happened to your son. Hope the incident didn't get him to have a trauma. I've never encountered something like this with my daughter. Hope this won't happen again.
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